Talking Dirty 101

Talking dirty is a great way to ramp things up in the bedroom or start a little foreplay long before you're ready to retire to the bedroom. Many people, however, find talking dirty downright awkward. They know what they want to say, but when it comes out of their mouth, it feels uncomfortable — and that uncomfortable feeling can quickly ruin the mood.

The good news is, you're not alone. Many people struggle with talking dirty, so you're certainly not the first to wonder where to start! The better news is, we're here to help. With this simple guide, you can learn more about heating things up inside the bedroom — and on your way there.

Step One: Get Comfortable Talking About Sex

One of the biggest mistakes many people make in their relationships is that they simply aren't comfortable talking about sex with their partners. Doing it isn't necessarily a problem. Talking about it, however, brings on stammers and stutters.

Get comfortable talking about sex with your partner. Develop your own code, if you like, especially if you have children still in your home and you don't want them to overhear (or understand what they're overhearing). Ask your partner what they like and what they don't like. Discuss new things the two of you might like to try, from adding a vibrator like Crescendo or Tenuto to your bedroom play to trying out a new personal lubricant. As you talk more about sex, you'll find that it gets easier to talk dirty. Sure, those discussions may start out clinical, but there's nothing clinical about the relationship between you and your partner, as you'll quickly discover when you open the door to more of those intimate chats. 

Step Two: Learn Your Partner's Fantasies

Most people indulge in a fantasy every once in a while, especially when they masturbate. What is your partner daydreaming about — and how can your dirty talk play into that? You may find that your partner has a few specific things that he'd love to hear you say, or that she would get incredibly turned on hearing you talk through a specific scenario. Learning what your partner wants is a great place to get started, and can increase your confidence so that the next time you're ready to talk dirty, you're more comfortable with it. 

Step Three: Start with the Simple

When you head into the bedroom with your partner, especially when you're just getting ramped up, keep it simple: talk about what you want. What is it that you genuinely can't wait for your partner to do to you in that moment? The imagination can be a powerful tool in the bedroom, especially for women, who often struggle to get in the mood when their heads aren't in the right place. As arousal increases, you may start imagining exactly what you want your partner to do next. 

You can't wait for him to go down on you. You'd love to feel her tongue slipping across your head. His hands would feel amazing on your breasts. Are you hoping to try out something new during this particular session — or perhaps during the immediate future? Tell your partner exactly what you're daydreaming about. Be as explicit as you like. After all, this is the person you want to share those passionate moments with! If you want, for example, to introduce Crescendo into your play, talk about how you'd love to have a specific area stimulated while your partner performs another action — or how you'd love to use it to stimulate your partner while they do something else entirely to you.  

Once you've moved past foreplay, you can still tell your partner what you want to do next or what you're waiting for.  How are you imagining reaching orgasm? Where would you like to be? What would you like to be doing? Where do you want your partner? Use the language that makes you most comfortable.

Step Four: Describe Your Pleasure

"I love it when you [X]." 

"You make me feel amazing."

"I can't wait for you to cum for me." 

As the pleasure ramps up in the bedroom, words often fall away. You'll find, however, that adding a little dirty talk to your bedroom play can increase your excitement level as well as increasing your communication with your partner, which can ultimately increase your pleasure. Tell your partner how you're feeling. Describe not just what you want them to do next, but also exactly what they're getting right and how much you love it. Feel free to describe the sensation of him inside you or her wrapped around you. Let your partner get an up close and personal explanation of exactly how you're feeling, and watch how it increases the pleasure for both of you. 

Giving feedback to your partner during sex is another aspect of dirty talk that can ultimately pay off for both of you. Sometimes, your silence is a sign that you're genuinely enjoying something, your stillness an indication that your partner has hit just the right spot and you don't want it to end. Your partner, however, may worry that they're getting it wrong — and as a result, it may end the foreplay for the time being. Instead, talk about it. Tell your partner what they're getting right. They'll love the feedback, and you'll love that they stay with that perfect strategy for just a little longer. 

Step Five: Tell Your Partner What You Like About Him/Her

One of the sexiest things you can do in the bedroom is describing what you like best about your partner. Try, for example, some of these strategies. 

"I love the way you make me feel so [X]." Do you feel tiny wrapped up in his arms? Does her small stature make you feel like you're handling something priceless? Describe the way your partner makes you feel and how much you love it. 

"I love your [insert favorite body part here]." You're in the bedroom, so your focus may be on the traditional erotic areas: breasts, butt, genitals. Sometimes, however, those aren't the things that are the biggest turn-on. Do you, for example, love the way his big, strong hands feel as they run all over your body? Love the feeling of her smaller hands sliding around you for the first time? What about her lips, or his sexy little smile just before he enters you for the first time? Tell your partner what it is that's turning you on: that special something that sends a little extra thrill running through your blood and adds just a little extra heat to the bedroom.

"I love how you [your favorite thing here]." Sometimes, it's the little things in the bedroom that you enjoy the most — some of them things that your partner may not even realize they're doing. 

Step Six: Learn to Talk Dirty Outside the Bedroom

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Once you get past that initial shyness, it may be easier to talk dirty in the bedroom than it is to let that kind of talk see the light of day. Dirty talk, however, can be an incredible kind of foreplay- — one that you can engage in no matter where your partner is or how far away you might be from one another. In fact, dirty talk is a great way to let your partner know that you might be interested in a little something extra in the evening, or that there's something in particular that you're looking forward to.

Whisper in your partner's ear. This is a great strategy when you're together, but in public. Slip up beside your partner, lean in close, and keep your voice low. Tell him how great he looks in that tux or how well his running pants highlight his assets. Tell her she's looking particularly gorgeous, or that the way she's biting her lower lip is turning you on a little more every moment. Then, move on with your normal activities as though nothing has changed — and watch the tension start to increase.

Send in an explicit, dirty text early in the day. Let your partner know exactly what you're imagining for later in the afternoon. Then, when your partner gets home, put your words into action and make that fantasy come to life! Sending that dirty talk via text message is also a great way to start building your confidence and getting more comfortable with dirty talk in general.

Cuddle up at the end of the night, rest your hand on your partner's inner thigh, and murmur what you'd like to do to them. If you're alone, this is a great way to move things straight to the bedroom. If you're not, it can help increase anticipation or speed things along so that you can end the evening sooner — or at least get your own private party started.

Are you ready to introduce a little more fun into the bedroom? Have you discovered that your partner can't wait to add a vibrator to your bedroom play? Contact us today to learn more about how the MysteryVibe products can help expand your sexual repertoire, increase your pleasure, and bring you and your partner closer than ever. 

Your Ultimate Male Sexual Health Inventory 2019

Responsible people make sure they have a wellness checkup at least annually. It makes them feel safer, catches certain conditions before they become troublesome, and educates them on their bodies. The same is true of a male sexual health inventory by way of an annual visit to your physician if you have a regular partner. But many men continue to hesitate when discussing their sexual issues with their physicians. We're here to tell you that:
  1. Doctors know the science of handling sexual problems.
  2. Your physician has heard it all. Nothing about your sexual health (or lack thereof) will surprise them.
  3. Common sexual problems are potentially treatable.
  4. Erectile dysfunction (ED) may be reversible.
Hey, you! Wake up, guys! Get a checkup now!

Sexual Health Inventory (SHIM)

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Yes, the acronym for this kind of check-up is SHIM. The Industrial and Community Health Research Centre, Keele University School of Postgraduate Medicine, Hartshill, and Stoke-on-Trent, England, joined together to provide an estimate of the prevalence of sexual dysfunction in the general population of the UK. Physicians sent an anonymous questionnaire for a random sample of the general adult population. The survey included these questions:
  • How confident are you of getting and keeping an erection?
  • How often were your erections hard enough to penetrate your partner?
  • After penetration, how long were you able to maintain your erection?
  • How difficult was it to maintain your erection to the completion of the intercourse?
  • How often was your attempted intercourse satisfying for you?
Researchers found the following:

Causes of Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction, the inability to get and keep an erection during sex, is not necessarily a sign of trouble if occurs from time to time. If it becomes ongoing, however, causes may include these physical or psychological problems:

Physical

  • Injuries that affect the spinal cord or the pelvic area
  • Heart disease
  • Enlarged prostate or prostate cancer treatments
  • Atherosclerosis (clogged blood vessels)
  • Sleep disorders
  • High cholesterol
  • Substance abuse or alcoholism
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Peyronie's disease (scar tissue inside the penis)
  • Obesity
  • Tobacco use
  • Metabolic syndrome (increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist, high cholesterol)
  • Some prescription medications
  • Parkinson's disease
  • Multiple sclerosis

Psychological

  • Depression, anxiety, or other mental health conditions
  • Stress
  • Relationship problems, poor communication, concerns

Let's Talk about Psychological Issues and Sex

man meditating mental health A sexual disorder does not mean that a person has something wrong with them. In today's world, sexual concerns such as erectile dysfunction can improve by a variety of treatments. Some interventions take the form of psychotherapy. Additionally, a sexual disorder only occurs if the person feels a great deal of anxiety or distress in his or her life. Sometimes, for example, a specific fetish is enjoyed and accepted if it is not causing trouble in a person's life. Unfortunately, men with ED sometimes experience a variety of psychosocial stresses that can include:
  • Loss of self-esteem
  • A diminished sense of masculinity and health status
  • Anger
  • A lowered quality of life
  • An unsatisfactory sex life
  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Embarrassment
  • Relationship issues
  • Inability to provide sperm for impregnation
Men with depression may have a higher incidence of ED than others of the same age. Physicians have discovered that treating the depression along with the ED actually improves depression scale scores more than only treating the depression. Clinical studies show that being in a loving, supportive relationship can make a person healthier. When significant personal involvements break, this can be one of the most stressful life events and will impact a person's general health. And, the amount of sexual intimacy in a caring relationship correlates with satisfaction within a relationship.

What's a Guy Supposed to Do?

Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to get back on track:
  • Work with your doctor to manage your chronic health conditions, including, of course, heart disease and diabetes
  • If you are experiencing periods of depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns, get some help
  • Continue your regular checkups and keep up with your medical screening and tests
  • Do whatever is necessary to reduce stress
  • Stop smoking
  • Be moderate in the amount of alcohol you consume
  • Eliminate mood-altering, illegal drugs
  • Get into a regular exercise habit
  • Certain medications can treat ED
  • Injections into the penis sometimes work
  • Talk with your partner about issues that may interfere with your sexual energy
  • Think of new ways to keep your sexual relationship exciting and erotic

Some Excellent Advice

Have you ever thought of spicing up your sex life? In many cases, a change of any kind can be the key to renewed closeness. We certainly have some recommendations at MysteryVibe. If your libido needs a bit of a restart, consider reviewing the most innovative pleasure-producing products pages you may have ever seen.

Crescendo

Our product is changing the way people feel about sexual health. The Crescendo can shape to fit your body. Erogenous zones you did not even know existed will appear. This perfect companion for foreplay and intercourse has six powerful motors and is flexible and easy to clean. The MysteryVibe app allows you to control your orgasm or lets your partner join in on the fun. You can pre-set your vibration patterns or create your own. The Crescendo is also unisex and bendable. This tool is the vibrator you and your partner have been searching for these many years. Michael Castleman, a sex counselor at AARP, says that men and women alike can enjoy using a vibrator. He adds that vibrators can:
  • Help women respond to other types of erotic stimulation
  • Some women require stimulation beyond what fingers and mouth can provide
  • Forty-five percent of American men have used a vibrator in partner sex at least once

Tenuto

This vibrator is for men and is wearable. It stimulates multiple areas, increases blood flow, heightens sensations, connects vibrations to partners, and improves the overall sexual experience. MysteryVibe's PLAYbook has all the positions and techniques you need to get the most out of your Tenuto. The possibilities are endless, and to add to the fun, the Tenuto is waterproof. You can control your erection and supercharge both performance and pleasure. The app has preset patterns, but you can create vibrations and intensity patterns yourself, as well. The design stretches and adapts to each user's penis and perineum. By doing so, the Tenuto increases blood flow, extends erections, and prolongs the pleasure. According to Men's Health Magazine, says a study in 2012 found that heterosexual men admitted to using and enjoying a vibrator at one point or another during their adulthood. The magazine continues by stating that MysteryVibe's Tenuto, or as they call it a "guybrator," will probably make men better lovers, too.

The App

The MysteryVibe App is, say many, the best sex toy for couples. Others add that the ability to take control of the vibration speed, intensity, and pattern to suit people's needs is a technological breakthrough.

MysteryVibes PlayBook

Tips for using your Crescendo and Tenuto are in the PlayBook (and we do mean "play"). The clear instructions and the creativity of the positions are bound to get any guy's sexual health level a bit higher with every play date. Harvard Medical School reports that sex is not only a pleasurable activity, but it can also allow a man to participate in and enjoy sexual activity fully. The article states:
A range of physical, psychological, interpersonal, and social factors influence a man's sexual health.
Health.harvard.edu says experimenting with different positions can add interest to lovemaking. For example, increased stimulation of the G-spot when her partner enters from behind can help a woman reach climax. The names of positions enhanced by the Crescendo and Tenuto alone are mental stimulation.
  • Pulsating Spank
  • Giddy-Up Buzzin' Stud
  • Zen Climax
  • Fellatioship of the Rings
Are you in the mood yet?

MysteryVibe

The bottom line here at MysteryVibe is that sex can be improved. America's attitude toward sex has swung from acceptance to disdain and back again. It is our mission to strengthen male and female sexual health. We want individuals to be more comfortable with sex-related conversations and become more open to the idea that sexual "play" is a popular activity. MysteryVibes wants the word itself (sex) to refer to lovemaking instead of something taboo. If MysteryVibe has anything to do with this sort of change, we will wear that badge proudly. Our efforts center on:
  • Making individuals talk, explore, discover, and satisfy their curiosity
  • Elevating people's pleasure
  • Mutually proposing possibilities
  • Talking about what feels good
  • Communicating your desires and fantasies
  • Introducing a variety of choices
  • Boosting relationships and increasing sexual satisfaction
  • Enhancing playfulness, adventure, and increased sensation
  • Inviting exploration
MysteryVibe has the guides, playbook, toys, and technology that will pull you into an exciting, new, and more sensual world. Contact us today for more information.

Healthy Changes That Can Improve Your Sex Life in 2020

With 2020 fast approaching, many people are making New Year's resolutions. This year, what if you could make a few healthy changes and resolutions that won't just improve your overall health and energy levels, but that will boost your libido, as well? Set yourself up for success in 2020 with some of these key healthy changes that can help with sexual health, too. 

1. Get More Active

fitness class improve sex life

Regular activity doesn't just improve your overall health and help you have more energy. It can also improve your overall sexual health and your staying power. You'll get more enjoyment out of sex when you're gasping from pleasure, rather than lack of air. In 2020, find a form of physical activity that you genuinely enjoy. You don't have to lace up a pair of running shoes and go for a long run, though that's certainly a great way to get more active! Check out a new dance or exercise class, play a new sport, or find a workout video that you genuinely enjoy doing. As you work out, you'll also become more comfortable in your own skin, which can translate to confidence in the bedroom.

Want a sexually positive bonus from your athletic endeavors? Consider finding something that you can enjoy with your partner. Getting sweaty together can be an incredible turn-on!

Keep in mind that many athletic activities can have unexpected sexual benefits. For example:

Building strength can improve the range of positions you can use. Whether you're male or female, you'll discover that there are some definite advantages to many strength-building exercises, which can help you enjoy a wider range of positions and activities. Pick up those weights or try some bodyweight activities that will help build that vital strength.

Building endurance can help keep you going longer. Cardio isn't just great for heart health. It can also help keep you going longer in bed, whether you're looking for a long, slow solo session or a fantastic session with your partner. Go for a long walk or run, check out the elliptical at the gym, or try out a long bike ride. 

Building flexibility will allow you to remain more comfortable throughout your sex sessions. Flexibility is critical for reaching some of your favorite positions. If you lose that flexibility, you may find yourself struggling to get into some of the best positions. Luckily, both yoga and stretching can help rebuild that vital flexibility. 

2. Check Your Diet

You know that a healthy diet can help increase your energy, help you lose weight, and even make your skin and hair appear healthier. What many people do not realize, however, is that a healthy diet can also improve your sex life. Onions, garlic, chili and hot peppers, and bananas can all help improve blood flow. Eating a wide variety of fruits and vegetables can, overall, increase your energy levels, which could make you more eager to engage with your partner. Of course, a little chocolate in your diet can also act as an aphrodisiac! 

3. Masturbate More Often

If you're struggling with sexual health, including struggling to get or stay aroused, masturbation could be the secret to a healthier sex life. Masturbation has a number of key advantages:

  • The more often your body gets sexual stimulation, the more likely it is to want it--which means that solo masturbation can set you up for increased desire for and pleasure with your partner.
  • Through masturbation, you will develop a better idea of what you like, which can help improve your enjoyment in the bedroom. 
  • Masturbation can help reduce stress, making you feel better as you go about your other daily activities--and as you head into the bedroom with your partner. 

Are you looking for ways to take masturbation--or, for that matter, sex--to the next level? Check out Crescendo and Tenuto, the amazing MysteryVibe vibrators. These vibrators can be fully customized to bring you maximum pleasure in every session. Crescendo can also be bent and shaped any way you like, making it the perfect vibrator for multiple types of stimulation. 

4. Find Ways to Reduce Stress

When you're stressed out, it's hard to focus on bedroom activities. It doesn't take much before stress starts to chip away at your sex life--not to mention leaving you with raised blood pressure, decreased enjoyment of life, and a sharper temper, which could make you more likely to snap at your partner. Try some of these strategies to reduce stress as 2020 arrives.

Remove unnecessary activities or requirements from your schedule. Have you developed a habit of saying "yes" to everything, even when it's no longer enjoyable? Are you busy every night of the week? Clear your schedule of things that you no longer enjoy and do not wish to do. You may instantly feel some of the stress lift off of your shoulders--and you'll make more time for your partner at the same time. 

Go to bed a little earlier. A good night's sleep has its own health benefits, which we'll discuss in a moment. By going to bed a little earlier, however, you'll also stop scrolling social media or mindlessly staring at the television while you still have a little energy left--which could spark a little extra activity once you're actually in bed.

Set aside a little time for yourself. You'll find that, when you're relaxed, it's much easier to handle the sources of stress that, some days, seem to be coming at you from all sides. Choose something that helps you relax and that you enjoy doing, whether it's taking a warm bath, going for a long walk, or spending time with a good book. Being more relaxed can also help you be more open to sexual activity, whether that's experimenting with something new or just cuddling up with your partner for a steamy session. 

5. Check Your Sleep Schedule

sleep

Around 1 in 3 adults regularly fail to get enough sleep at night. As a result, they walk around chronically sleep-deprived, feeling as though any disruption to their sleep schedule could be enough to push them over the edge. They're tired. They're stressed and short-tempered. The more time goes on, the more that lack of sleep wears on most people.

You may be surprised by the simple benefits of getting enough sleep. With adequate sleep, your immune system and heart function improve. Your blood sugar stays better regulated. Just as importantly, you may find that you're sharper and more energetic throughout the day, with improved cognitive processing ability. 

Equally beneficial is the change that a good night's sleep can make in your libido: when you get enough sleep, you're more likely to be in the mood for either solo or partner sexual play. You'll be more responsive to your partner, more creative, and more ready to enjoy time together, rather than simply wanting to fall off to sleep as soon as you get in bed. 

6. Commit to Trying Something New

If you want to achieve new results for your health and fitness, commit to trying something new this year. Not only is it a great way to shake things up in your exercise routine or to find something new to try for your diet, it's the perfect way to keep your mind engaged and excited. This year, commit to trying something new on a regular basis. You might want to:

Try out a new type of exercise each month. Visit a new exercise class, either alone or with your partner. Shake up your routine by going to run or walk at a different location. Play a new exercise video. It's easy to get stuck in a rut--but variety is the spice of life in more ways than one!

Try a new sexual position or activity. Check out a new toy with your partner (Crescendo or Tenuto could bring something amazing to the bedroom!). It will bring a new level of excitement to the bedroom while encouraging both of you to learn more about exactly what you like and how you like it. 

Experiment with cooking new foods. Check out the latest health trend. Take a cooking class to learn how to prepare something new. Watch a video online together. Not only will it add variety to your life, you may discover that it adds a little extra spice to more than just your cooking. 

As you try out new things in other areas of your life, you'll find that it becomes easier to remain more adventurous and try out many of the other opportunities in front of you. Sometimes, that rush of adrenaline is an aphrodisiac of its own. Other times, it will help make you more creative and engaged when you do come to bed with your partner. 

This year, it's time to shake up your health and improve both your physical and sexual health. Ready to try something new in the bedroom or add an increased level of pleasure? Contact us today to learn more about the MysteryVibe products, which can help improve both sexual pleasure and function--not to mention bringing something new to your bedroom for the new year. 

Give the Gift of Pleasure This Holiday Season With MysteryVibe

Are you looking for the perfect gift this holiday season--especially for your romantic partner? If so, consider giving the gift of pleasure: a Crescendo or Tenuto vibrator for that special someone in your life. Are you on the fence about buying a vibrator for the holidays? There are several great reasons why Crescendo or Tenuto could be the perfect gift for that special someone in your life this holiday season--or, for that matter, a great gift for a special friend who might need a little help making an amazing vibrator purchase.

1. Start the conversation about sex.

Both Crescendo and Tenuto are app-controlled and offer a wide range of options that will allow you and your partner to customize and maximize every pleasure session. In order to get the full benefits, however, you're going to have to talk to one another. What brings your partner the most pleasure? What does your partner like the most? When you purchase Crescendo or Tenuto for your partner this holiday season, you'll also open the door to a conversation about sex and what pleases you both the most. 

2. Enhance your sexual pleasure. 

If you're buying a gift for your partner, you'll want to choose the vibrator that fits their sexual needs--but with a bundle deal on Crescendo and Tenuto, you can maximize your own pleasure at the same time. Not only that, both Crescendo and Tenuto deliver vibration that can be felt by both partners at the same time during sex, which means that when you use these products to enhance your partner's sexual experience, you can enhance yours at the same time. 

3. Improve your partner's libido.

The more sex you have, the more sex you want: the same hormones that pump through your body when you have sex on a regular basis also enhance libido, which will make your partner want sex more often. Whether one of you has been suffering through a bit of a dry spell or you're looking for a way to enhance overall desire and your time with one another in the bedroom, giving your partner a vibrator for Christmas could be a great way to improve their libido and your sex life. 

4. Enhance your sex life even when you have to be apart.

Will you have to be away from your partner this holiday season due to travel or work demands? Thanks to Crescendo and Tenuto, you can continue to experiment with sexual pleasure even when you aren't together. Consider giving your partner their gift a little bit early and experimenting together, then video chatting and sharing some steamy long-distance shared masturbation sessions. Do you have to be away from your partner on a regular basis, coming together for a short while over the holidays and then separating again? Give them pleasure in a way that keeps on giving. You can experiment with Crescendo or Tenuto while you're together, then leave the gift with your partner so that they can enjoy solo pleasure while you can't be together.

5. Get closer to your partner than ever.

mysteryvibe christmas gift ideas

There's nothing quite like a little experimentation in the bedroom to bring you and your partner closer. Not only does maximizing pleasure with Crescendo or Tenuto mean an ongoing conversation with your partner, you'll find that as you experiment with new positions and techniques, it helps bring you closer together. No one knows how to bring you pleasure quite like a long-term sexual partner, and both Crescendo and Tenuto can enhance that pleasure and take it to new levels. 

6. Show your partner just how much you care about their sexual pleasure.

When you've been with your partner for a long time, it can be easy to fall into a rut, sexually speaking. Maybe it's been a long time since you and your partner tried something new. Perhaps you've struggled to bring your partner as much pleasure as possible. When you give your partner a vibrator for Christmas, on the other hand, you let them know just how much you care about their sexual pleasure--and you might just discover that they offer you a treat of your own as a reward. 

7. Crescendo and Tenuto are the perfect gifts when you aren't sure exactly what your partner likes.

Whether you and your partner have just started experimenting in the bedroom together or you've simply never experimented with vibration before, Crescendo and Tenuto allow for plenty of experimentation. In some cases, your partner might not even know what they like yet--but Crescendo and Tenuto offer the perfect opportunity to experiment and learn. Crescendo, for example, is a bendable smart vibrator that you can shape to fit your and your partner's unique bodies. It can be used both internally and externally, during both foreplay and intercourse, based on your needs and desires. Both Crescendo and Tenuto have six powerful motors that can be individually programmed, allowing you and your partner the flexibility to select different vibration patterns and experiment together. 

8. Buying a vibrator is the perfect gift for a friend or partner who isn't comfortable buying their own. 

Some people just aren't comfortable buying a vibrator on their own, even with the convenience and privacy of online ordering. They may get overwhelmed by all the options out there or struggle with the thought of asking questions. That doesn't mean, however, that they don't want one! If you know that your partner or friend wants a vibrator, but won't buy it without a little help, consider being the one to buy their favorite gift of the holiday season. 

9. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

How many times have you purchased a holiday gift, only to discover that within a few short weeks or months, it gets banished to the back of the closet and forgotten about completely? When you buy a vibrator for a loved one this holiday season, you can rest assured that you're getting a gift that will not be quickly forgotten. Your loved one will get a lot of use out of Crescendo or Tenuto, not just during the holidays, but during the rest of the year. Thanks to all the custom settings and options available, you'll also find that these amazing vibrators are almost always the perfect size, the perfect shape, and the ideal fit for any recipient. 

10. Spread a little sex positivity this holiday season. 

All too much of the time, sex gets shoved into the dark. No one wants to talk about it, and it's rarely allowed to see the light of day. It's time to break the silence! Whether it's for a friend or for your romantic partner, buying a vibrator helps break the negative stigma associated with sex and encourage your gift recipient to focus on themselves a little bit. It's a great way to spread some sex positivity, encourage a more positive body image, and help a friend or loved one get a little better idea of what they like in the bedroom: in short, the perfect combination. 

11. Help your friend or partner de-stress after--or in the middle of--the busy holiday season. 

Let's face it: the holidays, as fun and exciting as they are, can be one of the most stressful times of the year. One of the best ways to shake off some of the stress and relax again? A great pleasure session, either solo or with a partner. When you give the gift of Tenuto or Crescendo this holiday season, you let your partner or friend kick back, relax, and enjoy, letting go of some of that stress once and for all. If you give these amazing vibrators to your partner, you might just find that you get to let go of some of your extra holiday stress, too!

12. It's the perfect gift for that friend (or partner) who has everything.

Is there someone on your holiday shopping list who seems to have everything? Someone that you stress over shopping for every single year? If you're looking for the perfect gift--or at least one that definitely won't be forgotten--consider giving the gift of pleasure! Close friends will certainly appreciate the gesture and all the thought that went into it. Do you struggle to buy a gift for your partner? After you've been together for years, it can be hard to find something thoughtful, romantic, and perfect that will help show them just how much you love and desire them--but a vibrator could be the perfect answer to all your holiday struggles. 

Are you ready to finish off your holiday shopping list, check off your romantic partner, or buy a gift for a friend that will never be forgotten? Tenuto or Crescendo could be just the gift you're looking for. Contact MysteryVibe today to learn more about these amazing products and how they can transform your sex life or solo masturbation sessions.

Breaking The Cycle: A Shift from Punitive to Positive Parenting

girl carrying a large stuffed lion down a dirt road

I doodled as I daydreamed about it in class. I bragged about it to my friends on the playground. My eight-year-old self was over the moon about our upcoming family trip to Grant’s Farm that weekend. I had never yet been there, and I was excited. Like really excited.

Saturday morning finally came, and I was ready. Perfect outfit, check. A quick bowl of Frosted Flakes, check. The first one in the car, beating my brother, check. 

But then the morning took a terrible turn. The twenty-minute car ride was a disaster. Arguing with my brother had inspired an even bigger, messier argument between my mom and dad. By the time we parked, everyone was in a mood and I was crying.

“Quit crying or we will leave,” my dad said. 

My dad's threat brought on more, not less, of my waterworks plus a dash of hysteria at the thought of leaving before we even got there.

“That’s it. We are leaving!” 

And after a swat to my backside, we left. Bruised emotions and a sore tush were the only trip tokens that came home with us that day. 

I remember feeling small. So small that I could fit inside my own pocket.

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My parents were of a generation that frequented corporal punishment. It was the way they were raised, and their parents before them too. 

So it’s of little surprise that when I became a parent myself, my impulse was to spank, yell or lecture. Not knowing the long-term effects of this type of punishment, I repeated the experiences of my past, perpetuating the cycle.

Then one day, after an encounter with my own son that resulted in a swat to his backside, I stood there looking at him and I saw instead the reflection of my eight-year-old self. This shook me to the core.

I started studying all things positive parenting, and soon learned that unknowingly, with a swat of my hand, I was actually affecting my child’s brain; both neurologically and developmentally. His brain had eyes and those eyes saw me as a threat! 

And although I could achieve the short-term goal of getting my children to obey in that moment, I realized that I was not nurturing the lifelong skills of managing emotions and connecting with others.

Relying on fear to achieve obedience had both physical and emotional effects. I had never been taught how to manage my big emotions, and I noticed that my children were lacking the skills to manage theirs too.

It’s difficult to teach what you were never taught and do not know yourself. 

As I began to re-parent myself, I realized that “educational violence” was not a family tradition that I wanted to continue. I wanted to break the cycle of generations past.

“I love you but I hit you” was no longer the message I wanted to send my children.

This is when I found Generation Mindful.

I always thought being spanked didn't have an affect on me. And then I became a parent.

GEN:M planted seeds for me to water and cultivate. I started to focus on connection to better regulate myself and to co-regulate with my children. As I gained more emotional freedom, I broke down personal barriers and repaired relationships.

We are not the sum of our behaviors; a message often sent to my younger self with corporal punishment. I now see that when misbehavior rears its ugly (but inevitable) head, there is an unmet need lurking nearby. Misbehavior is an unmet need and instead of removing our love and attention, we can choose to connect.

One heart. One moment. One home at a time. We are the change.

** This article was written by a Generation Mindful mom member who wishes to remain anonymous. Do you have a story about mindfulness and/or connection to tell? Visit here for details and submit an article to our editor for consideration.

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