Are you looking to improve your sexual health or connection with your partner this year? Start by making your bedroom sexier! When your bedroom is a comfortable, sensual place, you’ll be more likely to give in to your desires and enjoy your partner as often as possible. Not sure where to start? Try some of these strategies to make your bedroom sexier for 2020.
1. Provide dim sources of light.
There’s something about dim light that immediately makes us feel more comfortable with our flaws. Shadows hide those areas we may feel self-conscious about while adding a special romantic touch to the occasion. As you’re aiming to make your bedroom sexier, start by changing up your lighting sources. Add at least one lamp with a dimmer switch or a bulb that offers soft, diffused lighting. Make sure it’s accessible from the bed so that you can easily turn it off when you’re ready to settle in for the night: when it’s easy to use, you’ll be more likely to use it!
2. Take out the technology.
If your room is filled with technology, from that corner of the bedroom that’s set up as your home office to a television, docking station for all your personal electronics, and tons of devices, it’s going to feel more functional than sexy. While those devices have their place, you don’t want them to be a distraction. Ideally, your bedroom should be used primarily for two things: sleep and sex. If you’ve been using your bedroom as a multipurpose room, the first step in making it sexier is cleaning out the technology and using it for its intended purpose again.
3. Clean up.
Whether your relationship is comprised of one person who is significantly neater than the other or both of you are more likely than not to let the mess pile up, don’t let that mess take over your bedroom! A clean, simplified space is sexier than one that is filled with clutter. Not only will it be easier to sleep in that space, but you’ll also feel more comfortable in it–and you’ll be more likely to draw closer to your partner when you step inside. Have you fallen into the habit of using your bedroom to dump all the items that don’t have a place in other areas of your home? Take the time to clean things out and create a more streamlined environment that focuses on what your bedroom is intended for.
4. Keep your toy box close at hand (and filled with erotic toys that both you and your partner enjoy).
Do you have an erotic toy box in the bedroom? It may not be a box, but instead a drawer of your nightstand or dresser, or even a basket tucked under the bed. Whatever it may be, take the time to stock it with items that you and your partner are excited to try or to enjoy again. When your sex toys are close at hand, both you and your partner will be more likely to reach for them to enhance your sexual experience–which means that they’ll get used, rather than gathering dust underneath your bed or in the back of the closet. Consider adding some of these items:
- A vibrator like Crescendo, which is specifically designed to maximize your pleasure, and playcards that offer suggestions for new positions and things to try
- Water-based lubricant like COCONU Water-Based Lube, Good Clean Love Almost Naked Lube, Sliquid Sassy Lube, or Astroglide Personal Water Based Lube to enhance many types of sexual play
- Massage oil like Sliquid Escape Organics Massage Oil
- Anal beads
- A bullet vibrator like Poco
- A massage oil candle
- Wipes like AfterGlow Adult Toy and Intimate Wipes (for quick cleanup afterward)
- Anything else that you and your partner find exciting!
If you have sex toys in your box, make sure you include a sex toy cleaner like Sliquid Shine Organic Toy Cleaner or Afterglow Adult Toy and Intimate Wipes for easy cleanup when you’re done. This will help keep your toys in working order and ensure that each session is safe and healthy, with less risk of spreading bacteria.
5. Make sure both partners are comfortable in your bedroom.
If you want your bedroom to be a sexy space, make sure it’s designed with both you and your partner in mind. Your partner, for example, might not be entirely comfortable in a room decorated with a frilly pink bedspread and fluffy pillows everywhere. While some compromise is inevitable in any relationship, make sure you know what makes your partner comfortable in the bedroom, then take care to invest in it. Overall, just try to avoid anything that makes them uncomfortable and ruins the vibe.
6. Invest in your bed.
Your bed is the heart of your bedroom, both when it comes to sleeping and when it comes to sex. If you want a sexier bedroom, make sure that you invest in your bed! Consider:
The bed itself. Choose a comfortable mattress: one that is the right firmness for both of you. If your mattress causes pain or prevents you from sleeping in your preferred position, it’s well worth the investment to go shopping for a new one.
The bed frame. A sturdy bed frame that doesn’t squeak or rattle is an ideal investment to any bedroom, especially if you have children at home. Consider what you most want in your bed frame before you go shopping: for example, if you and your partner enjoy bondage, a frame with sturdy posts could be an ideal addition to your bedroom.
The sheets. Choose a high-quality sheet set that helps you maintain a good sleeping temperature. Silk or satin can be sexy in the moment, but be warned: they’re less comfortable to sleep on than they are to have sex on, and they’re more likely to stain than cotton sheets. Go ahead and invest in a great set of sheets that will enhance both your sleep and your sex life.
The comforter or blanket. Let’s be honest: there’s nothing less sexy than a comforter that you can’t have sex on–or under–because you’re worried about the risk of a mess or stains. If you want to make your bedroom sexier, choose a comfortable, soft comforter that can easily be tossed in the washer. Pick a fabric or texture that appeals to you and your partner, and check to make sure it’s washable before you make the purchase.
Your pillows. Pillows aren’t just a place to lay your head, either as you’re falling asleep or during sex. They’re also perfect for propping under your hips to change up your position, bending over to make yourself more comfortable when approaching doggy-style sex, and using to help achieve the perfect angle in any position.
Don’t be afraid to invest in pillows that are the perfect shape and size for your favorite sexual activities. It can also be useful to have a few small pillows on hand to place under you or your partner while receiving a massage.
7. Minimize external noise in your bedroom.
Nothing can shake you out of the mood faster than noise outside the bedroom, whether it’s the sound of the kids fighting in another room or a roommate turning up the television. Not only can it distract you and pull you out of the moment, but distracting noises may also make you worry that you can be overheard, which can ruin the mood and prevent you and your partner from fully enjoying yourselves. Consider:
- Artfully using hangings or other items to help dampen sound
- Pushing a towel or blanket under the door, if needed
- Using a white noise machine or soft music to help minimize exterior noise
8. Make sure everything smells amazing.
Your sense of smell–and your partner’s–are incredibly important in the bedroom. Ideally, you want to start with a clean slate: a room that smells clean, rather than weighted down with dirty socks or overpowered by the scent of hairspray from the bathroom. Cleaning your room regularly can help it smell better on a regular basis. You can also try several key strategies:
- Use essential oils like ylang-ylang or jasmine, which are known to enhance arousal.
- Burn scented candles (but be careful to choose high-quality candles!)
- Use a spray to help direct a subtle scent exactly where you want it.
Keep in mind that subtlety is key when choosing scents for your bedroom. While you want to create an arousing, enticing scent, you don’t want them to overpower your partner or, worse, cause an allergic reaction. Make sure you know your partner’s likes and dislikes as well as any allergies, then start with a low-key scent that will hint at what’s to come later in the evening.
Preparing a sexier bedroom is one great way to enhance your sex life and improve your sexual health in 2020. Need a little help stocking that toy box? At MysteryVibe, we offer an incredible line of vibrators designed to enhance your pleasure and deliver incredible orgasms. Add them to your box today!