Our Top 4 Tips for Fulfilling Your Sex in Public Fantasy

Sex in public: it's one of the most common sexual fantasies, but unfortunately, it's one fantasy that can be incredibly difficult to fulfill. You don't want to commit an illegal act or risk getting caught--and for many people, the fantasy may be better than the reality. This is especially true since if you get caught, you could face serious legal consequences.

That doesn't mean, however, that you can't fulfill your sex in public fantasy. Try these tips for fulfilling that fantasy without the risk of getting arrested. 

Tip #1: Talk it through with your partner first.

Does the idea of sex in public add a special thrill to your fantasy life? Before you get ready to act it out, talk it through with your partner. First and foremost, of course, this is one of those fantasies that you'll definitely need your partner's consent for ahead of time. While you're talking it out, however, you can get a better idea of what it is that turns you on so much. Do you love the possibility that you might get caught? The thrill of having sex somewhere that you aren't supposed to? As you talk it through, you may get a better idea of exactly what it is that you love about the idea--and, therefore, how you can do it more safely.

Look for the common element. For example, if you love the idea of having sex somewhere that you aren't supposed to, you may want to try:

  • Sneaking into a room at your parents' house with your partner.
  • Slipping into a coed restroom together for a few frisky moments.
  • Having sex outside on the deck or in another relatively private space. 

You may even discover that simply having sex in another room of your home--one where you wouldn't ordinarily have sex--or engaging in sex using a piece of furniture that isn't usually part of the fun can help increase your thrills. 

On the other hand, if what you like is the idea of someone else watching you while you're having sex, you may want to come at your fantasy from a different direction. You might want to consider recording yourselves together--and even enjoy going back and watching it together later. Get creative! Once you know what it is that excites you about the idea of sex in public, you can brainstorm ways to accomplish it together. 

Tip #2: Get a little frisky in public together. 

You can't get naked and have sex with your partner in public without the risk of getting arrested. You can, however, get a little frisky without a problem--especially if you remain fully clothed. Some of the fun of the "sex in public" fantasy might be the idea of doing something sexual and private in front of other people, perhaps when they have little or no idea what you're doing. Try some of these strategies to get a thrill out of your sex in public fantasy without taking things far enough to get in trouble. 

Grab your partner's butt or engage in a gentle caress when no one is looking. When your partner's back is to a wall, you can get away with a little more than you can if you're in full view of everyone. Wait for a private moment, then give your partner's butt a squeeze--or have your partner do the same to you. Brush your fingers across his package or run them up her inner thigh. The cover of a table can be enough to allow you to get a little frisky without anyone noticing what you're doing--and while the thrill of potentially getting caught is there, you're also unlikely to scandalize anyone. 

Grind against your partner when no one is looking. A light brush can be enough to tantalize. If you're in a crowded public place, you can probably get away with pressing even closer, grinding up against your partner and adding a little friction. Sit on your partner's lap in a crowded public room and wiggle just right--just make sure that you're positioned properly to avoid squishing or pinching. 

Use a bullet vibrator. With a high-quality bullet vibrator controlled by a phone app, you can stimulate your partner without anyone knowing what you're doing. Insert the vibrator before you go out for the evening. It can stay off, gently tantalizing and letting you know that it's there. When the moment is right, the partner not currently wearing the vibrator can turn it on: low vibrations to tease and excite, favorite patterns to ramp up the tension, or stronger stimulation to take your partner all the way to orgasm without anyone noticing.

There's nothing visible as long as no one reacts, and especially if you're in a crowded place or one where no one is paying much attention to you--at a restaurant alone together or at the movies, for example--you can likely get away with thoroughly enjoying one another without anyone realizing what you're doing. If you're feeling particularly daring, Poco can also be inserted or settled into place before you leave the house, then turned on later in the evening. Bonus: tantalize your partner all evening, then sneak off somewhere private for a sex session. 

Try getting frisky in a car on private property. Do you remember those steamy teenage days in the back seat of the car? If you'd like to recreate them, try pulling into your own driveway, especially if it's relatively secluded. You can enjoy your partner in the car on your own property to your heart's content--with that added little thrill of having sex in a place where you aren't usually supposed to. 

Whisper or text suggestions to one another throughout the evening. Talking (or texting) dirty yet discreetly is a great way to engage in foreplay long before you head home for the evening, and it can give you the thrill of sexual play in public without any of the danger. It's private, just between the two of you, though of course there's always a faint risk of being overheard or having someone catch a look at your phone screen. Not only can those texted suggestions liven up a boring evening, but they can also help you live out your fantasy with less risk. 

Tip #3: Try a little role play.

couple car makeout

If you find the idea of sex in public a complete turn-on, role play is a great way to make it happen without the associated risk. In the privacy of your own home, act out that fantasy with your partner. You'll get some of the thrill as well as incorporating some extra fun that could help enhance your sex life. Try some of these strategies to increase the thrill factor without crossing the line into something illegal (or something that could cause you to be unable to look friends and family members in the eye later). 

Act out your favorite fantasies together. You don't really have to be on a crowded beach when your personal deck (well-secluded, of course) will do. You can have hurried sex up against the wall with her dress pulled up and his pants barely unfastened in the privacy of your own living room or bedroom. 

Take the same precautions you would take if you were actually in public. Make it fast. Don't take all of your clothes off. Whisper and keep quiet, rather than allowing yourselves to cry out in pleasure the way you normally would. You can take it as far as you like within the privacy of your own home, where you won't actually be seen or overheard. 

Choose a safer location to act out your favorite aspects of that fantasy. If having sex outdoors, for example, sounds like a huge turn-on to you, make plans with your partner to act out that fantasy safely. You might choose to rent a cabin in the woods, where it's completely secluded and you know that you'll have absolute privacy, or to rent a private beach house, where you can enjoy one another on the beach without interruption. 

Tip #4: Take precautions.

If you do decide to ramp up your desire to act out your fantasies, make sure you take the right precautions. If you're using a bullet vibrator on your partner, for example, have a safe word in place in case things get to be too much. Planning an outdoor sex session? Make sure you have a blanket or robe handy to cover things up if someone unexpectedly comes on the scene.

What sounds sexy in a fantasy might be much less impressive when it happens in reality. Discuss your fantasy and plans in depth with your partner before choosing to act it out. Troubleshoot any potential problems ahead of time and go in prepared to avoid those problems. 


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5 Ways to Bring More Sensuality into the Bedroom

As your relationship with your partner grows, you may want to add spice and sensuality: something extra special. Sensuality increases your confidence, helping you feel more comfortable in your own skin, as well as increasing your pleasure by engaging all of your senses. Do you want to bring an extra dose of sensuality to your bedroom? Here are a few of our favorite tips: 

1. Invest in bedroom decor that helps enhance all your senses.

When you've been with your partner for a long time, your bedroom decor may become practical and functional, rather than sensual. While your decor doesn't have to be made up solely of red satin sheets and dim lighting, a little effort in your bedroom decor can make a big difference in the sensuality you experience. Try some of these strategies. 

Choose great sheets that help you feel sexy. The type of sheets you want may vary depending on your style: for example, if you love that silky, sexy feeling, sateen sheets can help you slide into bed with a smile on your face. A high thread count and crisp sheets can also have you feeling extra sexy. Choose a set of sheets that you're comfortable sleeping on every night or have a special set of sheets set aside just for those nights when you're hoping for a little extra something special. 

Invest in soft, diffuse lighting. Sure, sometimes, you just need the overhead lighting in your bedroom, but that's not the only light you need. Choose a lamp or other soft light source that will make you feel more confident and sexy. 

Add great scents to your bedroom. Everyone has a scent that makes them feel sexier. If you're not comfortable using candles in the bedroom or don't want to have to worry about getting up to blow out the candles, consider using a diffuser or pillow spray to capture that perfect scent. Try:

  • Vanilla, a sexy and erotic fragrance that can help get you in the mood
  • Ylang ylang, which acts as a potent aphrodisiac
  • Jasmine, which is associated with heightened sensuality
  • Peppermint, which can raise energy levels and increase blood flow

Turn on white noise or soft music. Depending on your distraction level, you may not want music playing while you're in the middle of sex with your partner. White noise, however, can help drown out other sounds from the house, whether it's a movie playing in the living room or a child padding down the hallway to the bathroom for the third time that night. 

Use temperature control devices in the bedroom. You don't have to drive up the temperature in the entire house to warm things up a little in the bedroom in winter or cool them down in summer. Invest in portable units that you can use just in your bedroom to ensure that you can easily create the ideal temperature. 

2. Get to know what you like. 

If you want to feel sexier and enhance sensuality, take the time to get to know what you really like. Your body is unique. You might not like exactly what someone else likes. You may have specific positions and spots that bring you more pleasure or certain types of stimulation that you really love. 

Spend some solo time in the bedroom--a vibrator like Crescendo can help--or experiment with your partner to get a better idea of what really turns you on. As you become more comfortable with your own body, you'll naturally feel more sensual, which will translate into sexy time with your partner. 

Keep in mind, too, that what you like may change as you age and grow. Your hormones will shift, your desires will change, and what you find mind-blowing in your twenties may not be the same thing that brings you pleasure in your thirties or forties. Set aside time to get to know your body and experiment with what you like. You may just learn a few things about yourself that will translate into a higher level of sensuality. 

While you're experimenting with yourself, make time to experiment with your partner, too. One of the most sensual things you can do is genuinely enjoy getting to know your partner's body and learning what brings them pleasure. When you're in bed together, don't just automatically go with your old standbys. Instead, take the time to experiment and explore. Run your hands all over your partner's body, paying special attention to their most sensitive spots. You'll quickly discover new things about your partner and what they like that you can incorporate moving forward. 

3. Get excited about trying something new.

Every sex experience with your partner doesn't have to be mind-blowing and exciting. When you've been with your partner for a long time, you learn that there is often immense intimacy in those quieter, seemingly mundane sex sessions. Sometimes, however, adding a little sensuality starts with trying something new. 

First, sit down with your partner and discuss ideas. Sit close to one another and touch each other as you chat. You'll naturally ramp up the heat in the room and start getting excited about the things that you're eager to try in the bedroom. Consider some of these ideas: 

  • Bring a new toy into the bedroom. Crescendo or Tenuto could be the perfect place to start! Be sure to check out everything you can do with that toy ahead of time so that you're prepared to use it to its full advantage. Talk about what you're looking forward to most or what you'd most like to try together. 
  • Experiment with a new position--or positions. Choose several sessions to experiment with something new, and commit to trying it. If it doesn't work, you can always revert back to your tried and true favorites! We have a great playbook that can help you get started.
  • Commit to a few sessions that aren't about vaginal sex. There are an amazing number of things you can do to bring your partner pleasure without ever actually having sex together, but they often get only a little time during foreplay. Manually stimulate your partner, try oral sex, or use a vibrator, like Crescendo or Tenuto, to add extra stimulation. You'll still get the amazing intimacy of a sexual experience together, but you'll also get to spend more time lingering over your partner and discovering what they really like. 

4. Go on a lingerie shopping spree.


Lingerie shopping is hard, especially as an increasing number of stores move the majority of their stock online. Not only that, many women--and men, for that matter--have no idea what makes them look their sexy best.

Go on a lingerie shopping spree. Let your partner pick out something they would love to see on you. If you order online and it's not what you were hoping for in person, that's okay! The two of you can enjoy some great laughs together and try again next time. If you can get into a physical lingerie shop and try a few things on, let your partner pick out at least half a dozen things for you to try on. Can't model directly? Consider snapping a few pictures with your phone and sending them to your partner to get their opinion. Choose one or two special outfits and bring them into the bedroom to help ramp up the sensuality and have you both feeling (and looking) your best. 

Remember, the woman in your partnership isn't the only one who can dress up in something special. Investing in something extra sexy for him--underwear that hugs his package or fully display his assets, for example--could be a great way to help you get in the mood. 

5. Don't go straight to the genitals.

Want to ramp up the sensuality in your bedroom? Turn out the lights, close the door, and take it slow. Explore your partner's entire body. You may find new erogenous zones--and you'll definitely heighten anticipation and have your partner more excited than ever. Try some of these strategies:

Give your partner a full-body massage. Start with the shoulders and work your way down. As tempting as it is to get caught on by your partner's assets along the way, make sure that you don't get stuck there! Brush lightly over the genital areas and move on, building tension and increasing pleasure along the way.

Massage your partner's feet and legs. After a long day, this is a great way to relax, and is often surprisingly intimate. 

Kiss your way over your partner's entire body. Focus on the areas that you find sexiest. Do you love the curve of her collarbone? That little dip in his shoulder when he's been working out hard? Give yourself permission to explore, caress, and taste. 

Adding sensuality to the bedroom is a process--and much of that process takes place long before you actually enter the bedroom together. With the right tools, however, you can discover enhanced sensuality in the bedroom and a deep connection to one another, not to mention with yourself. Contact us today to learn more about how Crescendo and Tenuto can help enhance your sensuality. 

Talking Dirty 101

Talking dirty is a great way to ramp things up in the bedroom or start a little foreplay long before you're ready to retire to the bedroom. Many people, however, find talking dirty downright awkward. They know what they want to say, but when it comes out of their mouth, it feels uncomfortable — and that uncomfortable feeling can quickly ruin the mood.

The good news is, you're not alone. Many people struggle with talking dirty, so you're certainly not the first to wonder where to start! The better news is, we're here to help. With this simple guide, you can learn more about heating things up inside the bedroom — and on your way there.

Step One: Get Comfortable Talking About Sex

One of the biggest mistakes many people make in their relationships is that they simply aren't comfortable talking about sex with their partners. Doing it isn't necessarily a problem. Talking about it, however, brings on stammers and stutters.

Get comfortable talking about sex with your partner. Develop your own code, if you like, especially if you have children still in your home and you don't want them to overhear (or understand what they're overhearing). Ask your partner what they like and what they don't like. Discuss new things the two of you might like to try, from adding a vibrator like Crescendo or Tenuto to your bedroom play to trying out a new personal lubricant. As you talk more about sex, you'll find that it gets easier to talk dirty. Sure, those discussions may start out clinical, but there's nothing clinical about the relationship between you and your partner, as you'll quickly discover when you open the door to more of those intimate chats. 

Step Two: Learn Your Partner's Fantasies

Most people indulge in a fantasy every once in a while, especially when they masturbate. What is your partner daydreaming about — and how can your dirty talk play into that? You may find that your partner has a few specific things that he'd love to hear you say, or that she would get incredibly turned on hearing you talk through a specific scenario. Learning what your partner wants is a great place to get started, and can increase your confidence so that the next time you're ready to talk dirty, you're more comfortable with it. 

Step Three: Start with the Simple

When you head into the bedroom with your partner, especially when you're just getting ramped up, keep it simple: talk about what you want. What is it that you genuinely can't wait for your partner to do to you in that moment? The imagination can be a powerful tool in the bedroom, especially for women, who often struggle to get in the mood when their heads aren't in the right place. As arousal increases, you may start imagining exactly what you want your partner to do next. 

You can't wait for him to go down on you. You'd love to feel her tongue slipping across your head. His hands would feel amazing on your breasts. Are you hoping to try out something new during this particular session — or perhaps during the immediate future? Tell your partner exactly what you're daydreaming about. Be as explicit as you like. After all, this is the person you want to share those passionate moments with! If you want, for example, to introduce Crescendo into your play, talk about how you'd love to have a specific area stimulated while your partner performs another action — or how you'd love to use it to stimulate your partner while they do something else entirely to you.  

Once you've moved past foreplay, you can still tell your partner what you want to do next or what you're waiting for.  How are you imagining reaching orgasm? Where would you like to be? What would you like to be doing? Where do you want your partner? Use the language that makes you most comfortable.

Step Four: Describe Your Pleasure

"I love it when you [X]." 

"You make me feel amazing."

"I can't wait for you to cum for me." 

As the pleasure ramps up in the bedroom, words often fall away. You'll find, however, that adding a little dirty talk to your bedroom play can increase your excitement level as well as increasing your communication with your partner, which can ultimately increase your pleasure. Tell your partner how you're feeling. Describe not just what you want them to do next, but also exactly what they're getting right and how much you love it. Feel free to describe the sensation of him inside you or her wrapped around you. Let your partner get an up close and personal explanation of exactly how you're feeling, and watch how it increases the pleasure for both of you. 

Giving feedback to your partner during sex is another aspect of dirty talk that can ultimately pay off for both of you. Sometimes, your silence is a sign that you're genuinely enjoying something, your stillness an indication that your partner has hit just the right spot and you don't want it to end. Your partner, however, may worry that they're getting it wrong — and as a result, it may end the foreplay for the time being. Instead, talk about it. Tell your partner what they're getting right. They'll love the feedback, and you'll love that they stay with that perfect strategy for just a little longer. 

Step Five: Tell Your Partner What You Like About Him/Her

One of the sexiest things you can do in the bedroom is describing what you like best about your partner. Try, for example, some of these strategies. 

"I love the way you make me feel so [X]." Do you feel tiny wrapped up in his arms? Does her small stature make you feel like you're handling something priceless? Describe the way your partner makes you feel and how much you love it. 

"I love your [insert favorite body part here]." You're in the bedroom, so your focus may be on the traditional erotic areas: breasts, butt, genitals. Sometimes, however, those aren't the things that are the biggest turn-on. Do you, for example, love the way his big, strong hands feel as they run all over your body? Love the feeling of her smaller hands sliding around you for the first time? What about her lips, or his sexy little smile just before he enters you for the first time? Tell your partner what it is that's turning you on: that special something that sends a little extra thrill running through your blood and adds just a little extra heat to the bedroom.

"I love how you [your favorite thing here]." Sometimes, it's the little things in the bedroom that you enjoy the most — some of them things that your partner may not even realize they're doing. 

Step Six: Learn to Talk Dirty Outside the Bedroom

dirty talk 101

Once you get past that initial shyness, it may be easier to talk dirty in the bedroom than it is to let that kind of talk see the light of day. Dirty talk, however, can be an incredible kind of foreplay- — one that you can engage in no matter where your partner is or how far away you might be from one another. In fact, dirty talk is a great way to let your partner know that you might be interested in a little something extra in the evening, or that there's something in particular that you're looking forward to.

Whisper in your partner's ear. This is a great strategy when you're together, but in public. Slip up beside your partner, lean in close, and keep your voice low. Tell him how great he looks in that tux or how well his running pants highlight his assets. Tell her she's looking particularly gorgeous, or that the way she's biting her lower lip is turning you on a little more every moment. Then, move on with your normal activities as though nothing has changed — and watch the tension start to increase.

Send in an explicit, dirty text early in the day. Let your partner know exactly what you're imagining for later in the afternoon. Then, when your partner gets home, put your words into action and make that fantasy come to life! Sending that dirty talk via text message is also a great way to start building your confidence and getting more comfortable with dirty talk in general.

Cuddle up at the end of the night, rest your hand on your partner's inner thigh, and murmur what you'd like to do to them. If you're alone, this is a great way to move things straight to the bedroom. If you're not, it can help increase anticipation or speed things along so that you can end the evening sooner — or at least get your own private party started.

Are you ready to introduce a little more fun into the bedroom? Have you discovered that your partner can't wait to add a vibrator to your bedroom play? Contact us today to learn more about how the MysteryVibe products can help expand your sexual repertoire, increase your pleasure, and bring you and your partner closer than ever. 

Your Ultimate Male Sexual Health Inventory 2019

Responsible people make sure they have a wellness checkup at least annually. It makes them feel safer, catches certain conditions before they become troublesome, and educates them on their bodies. The same is true of a male sexual health inventory by way of an annual visit to your physician if you have a regular partner. But many men continue to hesitate when discussing their sexual issues with their physicians. We're here to tell you that:
  1. Doctors know the science of handling sexual problems.
  2. Your physician has heard it all. Nothing about your sexual health (or lack thereof) will surprise them.
  3. Common sexual problems are potentially treatable.
  4. Erectile dysfunction (ED) may be reversible.
Hey, you! Wake up, guys! Get a checkup now!

Sexual Health Inventory (SHIM)

male health inventory appointment

Yes, the acronym for this kind of check-up is SHIM. The Industrial and Community Health Research Centre, Keele University School of Postgraduate Medicine, Hartshill, and Stoke-on-Trent, England, joined together to provide an estimate of the prevalence of sexual dysfunction in the general population of the UK. Physicians sent an anonymous questionnaire for a random sample of the general adult population. The survey included these questions:
  • How confident are you of getting and keeping an erection?
  • How often were your erections hard enough to penetrate your partner?
  • After penetration, how long were you able to maintain your erection?
  • How difficult was it to maintain your erection to the completion of the intercourse?
  • How often was your attempted intercourse satisfying for you?
Researchers found the following:

Causes of Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction, the inability to get and keep an erection during sex, is not necessarily a sign of trouble if occurs from time to time. If it becomes ongoing, however, causes may include these physical or psychological problems:


  • Injuries that affect the spinal cord or the pelvic area
  • Heart disease
  • Enlarged prostate or prostate cancer treatments
  • Atherosclerosis (clogged blood vessels)
  • Sleep disorders
  • High cholesterol
  • Substance abuse or alcoholism
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Peyronie's disease (scar tissue inside the penis)
  • Obesity
  • Tobacco use
  • Metabolic syndrome (increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist, high cholesterol)
  • Some prescription medications
  • Parkinson's disease
  • Multiple sclerosis


  • Depression, anxiety, or other mental health conditions
  • Stress
  • Relationship problems, poor communication, concerns

Let's Talk about Psychological Issues and Sex

man meditating mental health A sexual disorder does not mean that a person has something wrong with them. In today's world, sexual concerns such as erectile dysfunction can improve by a variety of treatments. Some interventions take the form of psychotherapy. Additionally, a sexual disorder only occurs if the person feels a great deal of anxiety or distress in his or her life. Sometimes, for example, a specific fetish is enjoyed and accepted if it is not causing trouble in a person's life. Unfortunately, men with ED sometimes experience a variety of psychosocial stresses that can include:
  • Loss of self-esteem
  • A diminished sense of masculinity and health status
  • Anger
  • A lowered quality of life
  • An unsatisfactory sex life
  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Embarrassment
  • Relationship issues
  • Inability to provide sperm for impregnation
Men with depression may have a higher incidence of ED than others of the same age. Physicians have discovered that treating the depression along with the ED actually improves depression scale scores more than only treating the depression. Clinical studies show that being in a loving, supportive relationship can make a person healthier. When significant personal involvements break, this can be one of the most stressful life events and will impact a person's general health. And, the amount of sexual intimacy in a caring relationship correlates with satisfaction within a relationship.

What's a Guy Supposed to Do?

Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to get back on track:
  • Work with your doctor to manage your chronic health conditions, including, of course, heart disease and diabetes
  • If you are experiencing periods of depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns, get some help
  • Continue your regular checkups and keep up with your medical screening and tests
  • Do whatever is necessary to reduce stress
  • Stop smoking
  • Be moderate in the amount of alcohol you consume
  • Eliminate mood-altering, illegal drugs
  • Get into a regular exercise habit
  • Certain medications can treat ED
  • Injections into the penis sometimes work
  • Talk with your partner about issues that may interfere with your sexual energy
  • Think of new ways to keep your sexual relationship exciting and erotic

Some Excellent Advice

Have you ever thought of spicing up your sex life? In many cases, a change of any kind can be the key to renewed closeness. We certainly have some recommendations at MysteryVibe. If your libido needs a bit of a restart, consider reviewing the most innovative pleasure-producing products pages you may have ever seen.


Our product is changing the way people feel about sexual health. The Crescendo can shape to fit your body. Erogenous zones you did not even know existed will appear. This perfect companion for foreplay and intercourse has six powerful motors and is flexible and easy to clean. The MysteryVibe app allows you to control your orgasm or lets your partner join in on the fun. You can pre-set your vibration patterns or create your own. The Crescendo is also unisex and bendable. This tool is the vibrator you and your partner have been searching for these many years. Michael Castleman, a sex counselor at AARP, says that men and women alike can enjoy using a vibrator. He adds that vibrators can:
  • Help women respond to other types of erotic stimulation
  • Some women require stimulation beyond what fingers and mouth can provide
  • Forty-five percent of American men have used a vibrator in partner sex at least once


This vibrator is for men and is wearable. It stimulates multiple areas, increases blood flow, heightens sensations, connects vibrations to partners, and improves the overall sexual experience. MysteryVibe's PLAYbook has all the positions and techniques you need to get the most out of your Tenuto. The possibilities are endless, and to add to the fun, the Tenuto is waterproof. You can control your erection and supercharge both performance and pleasure. The app has preset patterns, but you can create vibrations and intensity patterns yourself, as well. The design stretches and adapts to each user's penis and perineum. By doing so, the Tenuto increases blood flow, extends erections, and prolongs the pleasure. According to Men's Health Magazine, says a study in 2012 found that heterosexual men admitted to using and enjoying a vibrator at one point or another during their adulthood. The magazine continues by stating that MysteryVibe's Tenuto, or as they call it a "guybrator," will probably make men better lovers, too.

The App

The MysteryVibe App is, say many, the best sex toy for couples. Others add that the ability to take control of the vibration speed, intensity, and pattern to suit people's needs is a technological breakthrough.

MysteryVibes PlayBook

Tips for using your Crescendo and Tenuto are in the PlayBook (and we do mean "play"). The clear instructions and the creativity of the positions are bound to get any guy's sexual health level a bit higher with every play date. Harvard Medical School reports that sex is not only a pleasurable activity, but it can also allow a man to participate in and enjoy sexual activity fully. The article states:
A range of physical, psychological, interpersonal, and social factors influence a man's sexual health.
Health.harvard.edu says experimenting with different positions can add interest to lovemaking. For example, increased stimulation of the G-spot when her partner enters from behind can help a woman reach climax. The names of positions enhanced by the Crescendo and Tenuto alone are mental stimulation.
  • Pulsating Spank
  • Giddy-Up Buzzin' Stud
  • Zen Climax
  • Fellatioship of the Rings
Are you in the mood yet?


The bottom line here at MysteryVibe is that sex can be improved. America's attitude toward sex has swung from acceptance to disdain and back again. It is our mission to strengthen male and female sexual health. We want individuals to be more comfortable with sex-related conversations and become more open to the idea that sexual "play" is a popular activity. MysteryVibes wants the word itself (sex) to refer to lovemaking instead of something taboo. If MysteryVibe has anything to do with this sort of change, we will wear that badge proudly. Our efforts center on:
  • Making individuals talk, explore, discover, and satisfy their curiosity
  • Elevating people's pleasure
  • Mutually proposing possibilities
  • Talking about what feels good
  • Communicating your desires and fantasies
  • Introducing a variety of choices
  • Boosting relationships and increasing sexual satisfaction
  • Enhancing playfulness, adventure, and increased sensation
  • Inviting exploration
MysteryVibe has the guides, playbook, toys, and technology that will pull you into an exciting, new, and more sensual world. Contact us today for more information.

Healthy Changes That Can Improve Your Sex Life in 2020

With 2020 fast approaching, many people are making New Year's resolutions. This year, what if you could make a few healthy changes and resolutions that won't just improve your overall health and energy levels, but that will boost your libido, as well? Set yourself up for success in 2020 with some of these key healthy changes that can help with sexual health, too. 

1. Get More Active

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Regular activity doesn't just improve your overall health and help you have more energy. It can also improve your overall sexual health and your staying power. You'll get more enjoyment out of sex when you're gasping from pleasure, rather than lack of air. In 2020, find a form of physical activity that you genuinely enjoy. You don't have to lace up a pair of running shoes and go for a long run, though that's certainly a great way to get more active! Check out a new dance or exercise class, play a new sport, or find a workout video that you genuinely enjoy doing. As you work out, you'll also become more comfortable in your own skin, which can translate to confidence in the bedroom.

Want a sexually positive bonus from your athletic endeavors? Consider finding something that you can enjoy with your partner. Getting sweaty together can be an incredible turn-on!

Keep in mind that many athletic activities can have unexpected sexual benefits. For example:

Building strength can improve the range of positions you can use. Whether you're male or female, you'll discover that there are some definite advantages to many strength-building exercises, which can help you enjoy a wider range of positions and activities. Pick up those weights or try some bodyweight activities that will help build that vital strength.

Building endurance can help keep you going longer. Cardio isn't just great for heart health. It can also help keep you going longer in bed, whether you're looking for a long, slow solo session or a fantastic session with your partner. Go for a long walk or run, check out the elliptical at the gym, or try out a long bike ride. 

Building flexibility will allow you to remain more comfortable throughout your sex sessions. Flexibility is critical for reaching some of your favorite positions. If you lose that flexibility, you may find yourself struggling to get into some of the best positions. Luckily, both yoga and stretching can help rebuild that vital flexibility. 

2. Check Your Diet

You know that a healthy diet can help increase your energy, help you lose weight, and even make your skin and hair appear healthier. What many people do not realize, however, is that a healthy diet can also improve your sex life. Onions, garlic, chili and hot peppers, and bananas can all help improve blood flow. Eating a wide variety of fruits and vegetables can, overall, increase your energy levels, which could make you more eager to engage with your partner. Of course, a little chocolate in your diet can also act as an aphrodisiac! 

3. Masturbate More Often

If you're struggling with sexual health, including struggling to get or stay aroused, masturbation could be the secret to a healthier sex life. Masturbation has a number of key advantages:

  • The more often your body gets sexual stimulation, the more likely it is to want it--which means that solo masturbation can set you up for increased desire for and pleasure with your partner.
  • Through masturbation, you will develop a better idea of what you like, which can help improve your enjoyment in the bedroom. 
  • Masturbation can help reduce stress, making you feel better as you go about your other daily activities--and as you head into the bedroom with your partner. 

Are you looking for ways to take masturbation--or, for that matter, sex--to the next level? Check out Crescendo and Tenuto, the amazing MysteryVibe vibrators. These vibrators can be fully customized to bring you maximum pleasure in every session. Crescendo can also be bent and shaped any way you like, making it the perfect vibrator for multiple types of stimulation. 

4. Find Ways to Reduce Stress

When you're stressed out, it's hard to focus on bedroom activities. It doesn't take much before stress starts to chip away at your sex life--not to mention leaving you with raised blood pressure, decreased enjoyment of life, and a sharper temper, which could make you more likely to snap at your partner. Try some of these strategies to reduce stress as 2020 arrives.

Remove unnecessary activities or requirements from your schedule. Have you developed a habit of saying "yes" to everything, even when it's no longer enjoyable? Are you busy every night of the week? Clear your schedule of things that you no longer enjoy and do not wish to do. You may instantly feel some of the stress lift off of your shoulders--and you'll make more time for your partner at the same time. 

Go to bed a little earlier. A good night's sleep has its own health benefits, which we'll discuss in a moment. By going to bed a little earlier, however, you'll also stop scrolling social media or mindlessly staring at the television while you still have a little energy left--which could spark a little extra activity once you're actually in bed.

Set aside a little time for yourself. You'll find that, when you're relaxed, it's much easier to handle the sources of stress that, some days, seem to be coming at you from all sides. Choose something that helps you relax and that you enjoy doing, whether it's taking a warm bath, going for a long walk, or spending time with a good book. Being more relaxed can also help you be more open to sexual activity, whether that's experimenting with something new or just cuddling up with your partner for a steamy session. 

5. Check Your Sleep Schedule


Around 1 in 3 adults regularly fail to get enough sleep at night. As a result, they walk around chronically sleep-deprived, feeling as though any disruption to their sleep schedule could be enough to push them over the edge. They're tired. They're stressed and short-tempered. The more time goes on, the more that lack of sleep wears on most people.

You may be surprised by the simple benefits of getting enough sleep. With adequate sleep, your immune system and heart function improve. Your blood sugar stays better regulated. Just as importantly, you may find that you're sharper and more energetic throughout the day, with improved cognitive processing ability. 

Equally beneficial is the change that a good night's sleep can make in your libido: when you get enough sleep, you're more likely to be in the mood for either solo or partner sexual play. You'll be more responsive to your partner, more creative, and more ready to enjoy time together, rather than simply wanting to fall off to sleep as soon as you get in bed. 

6. Commit to Trying Something New

If you want to achieve new results for your health and fitness, commit to trying something new this year. Not only is it a great way to shake things up in your exercise routine or to find something new to try for your diet, it's the perfect way to keep your mind engaged and excited. This year, commit to trying something new on a regular basis. You might want to:

Try out a new type of exercise each month. Visit a new exercise class, either alone or with your partner. Shake up your routine by going to run or walk at a different location. Play a new exercise video. It's easy to get stuck in a rut--but variety is the spice of life in more ways than one!

Try a new sexual position or activity. Check out a new toy with your partner (Crescendo or Tenuto could bring something amazing to the bedroom!). It will bring a new level of excitement to the bedroom while encouraging both of you to learn more about exactly what you like and how you like it. 

Experiment with cooking new foods. Check out the latest health trend. Take a cooking class to learn how to prepare something new. Watch a video online together. Not only will it add variety to your life, you may discover that it adds a little extra spice to more than just your cooking. 

As you try out new things in other areas of your life, you'll find that it becomes easier to remain more adventurous and try out many of the other opportunities in front of you. Sometimes, that rush of adrenaline is an aphrodisiac of its own. Other times, it will help make you more creative and engaged when you do come to bed with your partner. 

This year, it's time to shake up your health and improve both your physical and sexual health. Ready to try something new in the bedroom or add an increased level of pleasure? Contact us today to learn more about the MysteryVibe products, which can help improve both sexual pleasure and function--not to mention bringing something new to your bedroom for the new year. 

Give the Gift of Pleasure This Holiday Season With MysteryVibe

Are you looking for the perfect gift this holiday season--especially for your romantic partner? If so, consider giving the gift of pleasure: a Crescendo or Tenuto vibrator for that special someone in your life. Are you on the fence about buying a vibrator for the holidays? There are several great reasons why Crescendo or Tenuto could be the perfect gift for that special someone in your life this holiday season--or, for that matter, a great gift for a special friend who might need a little help making an amazing vibrator purchase.

1. Start the conversation about sex.

Both Crescendo and Tenuto are app-controlled and offer a wide range of options that will allow you and your partner to customize and maximize every pleasure session. In order to get the full benefits, however, you're going to have to talk to one another. What brings your partner the most pleasure? What does your partner like the most? When you purchase Crescendo or Tenuto for your partner this holiday season, you'll also open the door to a conversation about sex and what pleases you both the most. 

2. Enhance your sexual pleasure. 

If you're buying a gift for your partner, you'll want to choose the vibrator that fits their sexual needs--but with a bundle deal on Crescendo and Tenuto, you can maximize your own pleasure at the same time. Not only that, both Crescendo and Tenuto deliver vibration that can be felt by both partners at the same time during sex, which means that when you use these products to enhance your partner's sexual experience, you can enhance yours at the same time. 

3. Improve your partner's libido.

The more sex you have, the more sex you want: the same hormones that pump through your body when you have sex on a regular basis also enhance libido, which will make your partner want sex more often. Whether one of you has been suffering through a bit of a dry spell or you're looking for a way to enhance overall desire and your time with one another in the bedroom, giving your partner a vibrator for Christmas could be a great way to improve their libido and your sex life. 

4. Enhance your sex life even when you have to be apart.

Will you have to be away from your partner this holiday season due to travel or work demands? Thanks to Crescendo and Tenuto, you can continue to experiment with sexual pleasure even when you aren't together. Consider giving your partner their gift a little bit early and experimenting together, then video chatting and sharing some steamy long-distance shared masturbation sessions. Do you have to be away from your partner on a regular basis, coming together for a short while over the holidays and then separating again? Give them pleasure in a way that keeps on giving. You can experiment with Crescendo or Tenuto while you're together, then leave the gift with your partner so that they can enjoy solo pleasure while you can't be together.

5. Get closer to your partner than ever.

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There's nothing quite like a little experimentation in the bedroom to bring you and your partner closer. Not only does maximizing pleasure with Crescendo or Tenuto mean an ongoing conversation with your partner, you'll find that as you experiment with new positions and techniques, it helps bring you closer together. No one knows how to bring you pleasure quite like a long-term sexual partner, and both Crescendo and Tenuto can enhance that pleasure and take it to new levels. 

6. Show your partner just how much you care about their sexual pleasure.

When you've been with your partner for a long time, it can be easy to fall into a rut, sexually speaking. Maybe it's been a long time since you and your partner tried something new. Perhaps you've struggled to bring your partner as much pleasure as possible. When you give your partner a vibrator for Christmas, on the other hand, you let them know just how much you care about their sexual pleasure--and you might just discover that they offer you a treat of your own as a reward. 

7. Crescendo and Tenuto are the perfect gifts when you aren't sure exactly what your partner likes.

Whether you and your partner have just started experimenting in the bedroom together or you've simply never experimented with vibration before, Crescendo and Tenuto allow for plenty of experimentation. In some cases, your partner might not even know what they like yet--but Crescendo and Tenuto offer the perfect opportunity to experiment and learn. Crescendo, for example, is a bendable smart vibrator that you can shape to fit your and your partner's unique bodies. It can be used both internally and externally, during both foreplay and intercourse, based on your needs and desires. Both Crescendo and Tenuto have six powerful motors that can be individually programmed, allowing you and your partner the flexibility to select different vibration patterns and experiment together. 

8. Buying a vibrator is the perfect gift for a friend or partner who isn't comfortable buying their own. 

Some people just aren't comfortable buying a vibrator on their own, even with the convenience and privacy of online ordering. They may get overwhelmed by all the options out there or struggle with the thought of asking questions. That doesn't mean, however, that they don't want one! If you know that your partner or friend wants a vibrator, but won't buy it without a little help, consider being the one to buy their favorite gift of the holiday season. 

9. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

How many times have you purchased a holiday gift, only to discover that within a few short weeks or months, it gets banished to the back of the closet and forgotten about completely? When you buy a vibrator for a loved one this holiday season, you can rest assured that you're getting a gift that will not be quickly forgotten. Your loved one will get a lot of use out of Crescendo or Tenuto, not just during the holidays, but during the rest of the year. Thanks to all the custom settings and options available, you'll also find that these amazing vibrators are almost always the perfect size, the perfect shape, and the ideal fit for any recipient. 

10. Spread a little sex positivity this holiday season. 

All too much of the time, sex gets shoved into the dark. No one wants to talk about it, and it's rarely allowed to see the light of day. It's time to break the silence! Whether it's for a friend or for your romantic partner, buying a vibrator helps break the negative stigma associated with sex and encourage your gift recipient to focus on themselves a little bit. It's a great way to spread some sex positivity, encourage a more positive body image, and help a friend or loved one get a little better idea of what they like in the bedroom: in short, the perfect combination. 

11. Help your friend or partner de-stress after--or in the middle of--the busy holiday season. 

Let's face it: the holidays, as fun and exciting as they are, can be one of the most stressful times of the year. One of the best ways to shake off some of the stress and relax again? A great pleasure session, either solo or with a partner. When you give the gift of Tenuto or Crescendo this holiday season, you let your partner or friend kick back, relax, and enjoy, letting go of some of that stress once and for all. If you give these amazing vibrators to your partner, you might just find that you get to let go of some of your extra holiday stress, too!

12. It's the perfect gift for that friend (or partner) who has everything.

Is there someone on your holiday shopping list who seems to have everything? Someone that you stress over shopping for every single year? If you're looking for the perfect gift--or at least one that definitely won't be forgotten--consider giving the gift of pleasure! Close friends will certainly appreciate the gesture and all the thought that went into it. Do you struggle to buy a gift for your partner? After you've been together for years, it can be hard to find something thoughtful, romantic, and perfect that will help show them just how much you love and desire them--but a vibrator could be the perfect answer to all your holiday struggles. 

Are you ready to finish off your holiday shopping list, check off your romantic partner, or buy a gift for a friend that will never be forgotten? Tenuto or Crescendo could be just the gift you're looking for. Contact MysteryVibe today to learn more about these amazing products and how they can transform your sex life or solo masturbation sessions.