Meaning of Gay

Though there are a few ways that define what gay means, one is more accurate than the others. The more accurate definition of the word gay is someone who is homosexual. It is usually for someone who is a man, though women do use the word to describe themselves. The word was originally used as …

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Kink and Sexuality Research Organizations

Kink and Sexuality Websites and Organizations

All of these organizations are dedicated to positive sexuality and or alternative relationships and sexual identities. Organization descriptions are be pulled from their respective websites. This is not exhaustive and I encourage you to add to the list in the comments and if your organization would like to be included in the list, please email …

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Asexuality Books: Recommended Reading


This is not an exhaustive list of the amazing books on Asexuality that are out there. Feel free to add names in the comments or email [email protected] What is Asexuality? Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. Also is identified as an orientation in …

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Kink Communities and Culture Books: Recommended Reading


This is not an exhaustive list of the amazing books that are out there. Feel free to add names in the comments or email [email protected] Leather Communities Assimilation: Tales of Transformation and Surrender, Bootbush (Nazca Plains Corporation, 2012). A collection of stories that discus a variety of BDSM play including water sports and puppy play. Boots of …

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Glossary of Commonly Used Terms in the Kink Communities

Kinky Glossary All skills or play styles described below involve interactions between consenting adults unless otherwise noted. * denotes activity which are commonly considered Edgeplay though other play may fall into this category for some participants Kinky Glossary Disclaimer This Kinky Glossary was written more than five years ago there has been a significant number of changes …

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History of Pride and the LGBTQ+ Community

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Pride wasn’t originally a celebratory thing like it is now. It was actually a riot, the Stonewall Riots, which lasted from June 28th 1969 – July 3rd 1969. The riots took place in the Greenwich Village neighborhood of Manhattan, New York. The community was tired of not being able to exist without being prosecuted and …

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Sports and Sexuality

Within the sports world, sexuality is something that is now being discussed more than ever. It might have something to do with more athletes coming out. It’s also more prevalent in women’s sports than men’s sports. Women vs Men in the Community It’s often women athletes who are open about being part of the LGBTQ+ …

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The Kink Phobia Problem

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Sexual Outsiders and Kink Phobia Sexual, genders, and relationship minorities, also known as sexual outsiders, are currently not receiving the proper standard of care by mental health professionals. One of the barriers to the development of more educational programs about this population is the lack of mainstream science acknowledging it as an identifiable subculture. This blog …

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What is Asexuality?


Asexuality is an Orientation “Aѕеxuаlitу” is a sexual orientation characterized by a persistent lack of sexual attraction towards any gender. Like every other sexual orientation, asexuality is not a choice. My asexual clients never report just waking up one day and saying, “You know what? I’m tired of sex. I’m not going to feel attracted …

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Why LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapists are Important

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Ask a Therapist Why is an affirmative therapist important? For many people, the process of finding a therapist can feel confusing, but the process of finding a therapist you trust can feel downright daunting. This can be especially true for the LGBTQIA+ community.  (Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, and other sexual, romantic, and …

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