Swinging and Polyamory Resources

All of these open relationship and polyamory resources are dedicated to supporting positive sexuality and or alternative relationships and sexual identities. Websites and organization descriptions are be pulled from their respective websites. This is not exhaustive and I encourage you to add to the list in the comments and if your organization would like to be included …

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Asexuality Books: Recommended Reading


This is not an exhaustive list of the amazing books on Asexuality that are out there. Feel free to add names in the comments or email [email protected] What is Asexuality? Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. Also is identified as an orientation in …

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BDSM Play For Clinicians: The BDSM Scene


What Is A Scene? A BDSM “scene” is a negotiated event that may involve bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism, and/or power exchange behaviors. The length, type, number of participants, and other factors involved with play can vary dramatically from scene to scene. Traditionally, all elements are negotiated verbally or via written contract prior to each and …

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Power Exchange Considerations for Clinicians

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Power Exchange Relationship Dynamics In power exchange relationships there are generally two main dynamics; An individual who gives their autonomy and power, an s-type, and an individual who takes on the responsibility and control over another, a D-type. This concept of course can be flexible to the number of participants, gender, and so on but …

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RACK and PRICK: Safety in the BDSM Community


Prick, Rack, and Safety? Safety is of great concern in the community and there are three, nearly universal, codes or measures for safety and consent guidelines for which they practice; SSC, RACK, PRICK. “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” (SSC) is the oldest of these codes and is still a common safety tool used in BDSM play. …

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Power Exchange Relationships I: Fundamentals and Science of BDSM

What is BDSM? BDSM is an acronym for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, and Sadism/masochism, also commonly referred to as SM. BDSM interactions can be sexual or non- sexual and can involve direct contact and online engagement. “BDSM is also commonly interpreted from discourses focusing directly on sexuality, yet such an approach is limited given that many BDSM …

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Swinging Couples: Common Therapy Topics and Challenges Seen in Practice

Open Relationship Therapist When working with couples that are looking into opening their marriage, our first session is the same whether they are exploring polyamory or swinging. Additionally, it is not uncommon for couples that are exploring either flavor of open marriage, to jump from one flavor to the next. I always perform The Gottman …

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Working With Open Relationships: An Introduction


Communication is that simple concept of connection for which all couples feel is the root of their problems. I am a big proponent of the work of Dr. John Gottman, foremost relationship and communication researcher in the world, and use his tools almost exclusively in my practice because they apply themselves so well to polyamory …

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Swinging Relationships and Their Constellations: An Introduction

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Swinging Relationships Traditionally swingers are couples that desire to participate in exploratory sexual activity with other couples. There is a trend of couples desiring a single female, also known as a “unicorn,” to add to their sexual exploration, but as previously noted they are called unicorns because they are few and far between. When working …

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Glossary of Commonly Used Terms in the Kink Communities

Kinky Glossary All skills or play styles described below involve interactions between consenting adults unless otherwise noted. * denotes activity which are commonly considered Edgeplay though other play may fall into this category for some participants Kinky Glossary Disclaimer This Kinky Glossary was written more than five years ago there has been a significant number of changes …

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