Common Therapy Topics and Challenges Seen with Polyamory Families

Open Relationship Therapist Working with polyamory families requires the therapist or coach to have the ability to be a good negotiator. When working with couples that are looking into opening their marriage, our first session is the same whether they are exploring polyamory or swinging. Additionally, it is not uncommon for couples that are exploring …

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Why LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapists are Important

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Ask a Therapist Why is an affirmative therapist important? For many people, the process of finding a therapist can feel confusing, but the process of finding a therapist you trust can feel downright daunting. This can be especially true for the LGBTQIA+ community.  (Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, and other sexual, romantic, and …

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Primal Scream Therapy … Pseudoscience or Genius?!

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Have you ever screamed … out loud?  Not sitting in grid-locked traffic, not at your partner arguing over who locked the keys in the car, but a raw, guttural, agonizing scream that came from somewhere deep inside you, that you have become totally disconnected from?  A scream so jagged and saturated in pain, that the very release of it left you completely numb and void of every other human emotion?  It felt almost PRIMAL! 

This release leaves you utterly spent … standing in what is only the whispers of repressed emotions, rage and pain that you had buried deep for years. 

While there is an endless array of therapies that have been long accredited and recognized for their success in helping patients deal with repressed emotions and pain, connected to traumatic childhood events, Primal Scream Therapy is one I had not heard of till only recently.  And it has me intrigued as heck!

For every therapist who praises it, there are those who oppose it and want to debunk it, labelling it as pseudoscience. 

What is Primal Scream Therapy

Primal Scream Therapy was created by Dr. Arthur Janov in the late 1960’s and was publicly introduced in the 1970’s with his book The Primal Scream

While most psychologists can agree, at least to some extent, that mental illness can often be the result of, or associated with unresolved, traumatic childhood pain, that tends to be where the cordial conversation ceases. 

Janov claimed that this trauma and pain can be healed, by allowing a patient to re-experience those incidences and that pain FULLY.   And in that safe environment ,feel those emotions and release that pain through spontaneous, unrestrained and oftentimes intense screaming, yelling and sobbing. 

Seems to me that releasing deep pain has tremendous potential to heal, rather than swallowing emotional bile for years.

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Be As Loud As You Want With The Scream Box … No One Will Know!


What is a Scream Box? When is the last time you let out a massive scream?  I mean a raw, guttural, emotionally charged & intense scream!  The kind that leaves you with sweat on your brow, your skin tingling with electricity and ultimately, totally emotionally spent?!  Yeah … THAT kind of scream!  Felt good right?  Correction … it felt freaking amazing!

Scream Box Therapy

What is it about screaming that feels so good?  Well, I can only speak for myself, but this loud vocal exertion of emotion is incredibly cathartic and healing.  I mean, c’mon … how much can I, or anyone for that matter, be expected to keep bottled up inside, without eventually exploding all of THAT out?!  It’s a serious question and one I really want you to think about.

There plenty of research to support screaming as a credible therapy, to deal with trauma, pain, anger, anxiety, fear, etc.   For many people it simply works … and well.

The problem with screaming out loud as an emotional and therapeutic release is that, unless you have a place to go and do this that is private and/ or safe to do so, you really can’t.  And heaven forbid you just say F**K IT and scream yourself senseless … you have about 6 minutes before law enforcement is showing up on your doorstep with A TON of questions!


This is where a scream box can be your saving grace.  The scream box allows you to be as loud, as raw and as intense as you need to be.  The beauty in the design is that it stays within your own space.  And trust me … I’ve tested this out.  I live in a small apartment complex and not once did anyone show up at my door thinking I’d been brutally attacked.

The scream box?  Honestly … it’s a great tool to just let it ALL OUT!

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Buddha Board Therapy

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What is Buddha Board Therapy? When is the last time you did anything that was intentional in helping to soothe yourself?  Be honest here!  And I’m not talking about going out and letting off steam … I’m talking about truly and authentically taking some action in doing something that actually helped to ‘bring you back to center” calmly, peacefully and left feeling like, well …. “Ahhhhh.”

One of the biggest gifts that you can give yourself in the art, yes I said art, of intentional self-soothing practices, is allowing yourself to completely LET GO!  Maybe not for days or even hours, but in that moment, any moment where you really need to disconnect from all the buzz and BS of the outside world … doing something that allows you to reconnect to a calmness inside you is truly, a gift.

I’m always on the hunt for things that can get me to this place.  I’ve tried literally hundreds of different things … apps on my phone, mind-focussed games, white noise machines, knitting and of course meditation.  I have to tell you, the one thing I’ve learned is that I completely SUCK at meditating.  Which left me feeling disappointed and like I failed at something that all of us should be able to do.

And meditation was the one thing I wanted to be good at because it can be done anywhere in only a few minutes if that is all you have.  But it just wasn’t working for me.

The Solution!

And then I found it … Buddha Board Therapy!  And life changed!  No seriously … it changed.  This unassuming little escape from all the fuckery of life comes in a compact size that fits in my purse.  So anytime, anywhere, I can pull out my little buddha board and stroke myself to inner peace and letting go of what I don’t need to carry with me.

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Dr. Patsy Evans a.k.a. Dr. Harmony is one of Florida’s leading Clinical Sexologists and Traumatologists. She brings her unique blend of skills and education specializing in Kink Culture and Sexuality, Relationship Counseling, Executive, Leadership and Business Coaching, Traumatology, Crisis Management, Dispute Resolution, Diplomatic Relations, and Negotiation, and Corporate Culture Transformation. Dr. Evans is the founder of the Kink Aware Therapy Certification Institute and Harmonyus Inc. Dr. Harmony is a Florida Licensed Acupuncture Physician, License Mental Health Counselor, Clinical Sexologist and Supreme Court Certified Family Court Mediator (retired).

Maintaining Mental Health During Covid-19


As we continue to face the COVID-19 pandemic it is vital that we pay attention to mental health. Over the course of the pandemic, fear, uncertainty, anxiety, sadness, grief and depression have become common place. Not only are individuals worried for their physical health and that of their loved ones, they may also be experiencing financial instability, isolation due to social distancing and quarantine measures, or perhaps a sense of hopelessness. It is important to make some adaptations while we hope for brighter and safer days ahead. Doing so can greatly improve and protect your mental health.

Tips For Improving and Maintaining Mental Health During Covid-19:

Ask for Help and Seek Mental Health Support

It can be really challenging to reach out and ask for help when you are struggling. While it may not feel comfortable, asking for help when you need it is the most important tip on this list. Asking for help can start small with things like asking a partner to assist you with a task around the house when you feel overwhelmed. Asking for help may also mean contacting a mental health professional for professional mental health support.

Most importantly, if you are experiencing a mental health crisis, or fear that you may, ask for help by utilizing mental health crisis lines and support networks. Here are some crisis lines that you can keep handy:

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1- 800-799-7233
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255);
  • The Trevor Project: (Provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQIA+ individuals under the age of 25.) 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 678678.
  • Veterans Crisis Line:
  • SAMHSA’s National Helpline- (Provides treatment referral and information for individuals and families facing mental health or substance use disorders.) 1-800-662-4357
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Stay Social

Social distancing measures, while working to keep us safe and protect our health, have left many people feeling isolated and lonely. It is important to maintain social contact as best as you can during this time. Here are some ideas for staying socially connected, while socially distanced:

  • Talk to your friends and family and determine a day and time that is open for everyone. Schedule a weekly video chat to catch up.
  • Find online virtual gaming spaces where you can play games with your friends or family online together. Set up a weekly game night.
  • Where you would normally text, try calling where you are able to instead, so you can have more of a socially connected conversation.
  • Have themed video call “parties”. You and your friends or family can dress up according to the theme, and show off your outfits during the video call. This can be a fun way to get out of your typical routine and comfort zone!

Limit News Intake

It is important to stay informed during this time, to make sure you are taking the proper steps to keep you and your loved ones safe and healthy. However, the constant influx of COVID-19 news can leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and depressed. Limit your news intake if possible by setting a designated amount of time per day, perhaps one hour, to catch up on news. Receive your COVID-19 important news and updates directly from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) website, as opposed to watching lengthy news presentations. Limiting your news intake, can be really beneficial to your mental health.

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Scat Play: Is it normal?

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There is nothing wrong with wanting to find an individual or individuals that share your love and interest in this kind of play. They are out there. This is a fairly well-known fetish. There are even dating and discussion sites dedicated to scat play called and There are also discussion threads dedicated to scat on One individual has stated it is honoring a piece of person either by ingesting or playing with scat.

Who Are Kinky People?

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Are my Neighbors Kinky? Kink related activities are not uncommon among the general populous. Thaddeus Birchard, a foremost clinician and researcher in Great Britain, is an advocate for the normalization of Kink related behaviors. In his text, CBT for Compulsive Sexual Behaviors (2015), he compiled a review of BDSM research that identifies the prevalence of BDSM behavior. Kinsey, …

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Dr. Harmony and The KTCI Program Origin


Dr. Harmony Biography and Kink Experience My name is Patsy Evans aka Dr. Harmony and I am a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Supreme Court Certified Family Court Mediator, Clinical Sexologist, and Certified Transgender Care Provider. I have been a member of and worked with the alternative lifestyle, or Kink, community for …

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